I’m Jay, a 41-year-old single gay man who lives in Philadelphia. I just turned around one day, and I was middle-aged and single. Really. I’m a white-collar type (yawn) who’s usually more interested in live music, televised poker, and the Flyers scores than anything else. Well, and men. Unfortunately, and this is the damn straight(?) truth, I’m incompetent at dating. Send help.